Complain much?

"Complaining allows us to acknowledge the imperfect without having to take action--it lets us luxuriate in inertia." --Lauren Lola

Oh, how we love to complain. And, luxuriating in inertia almost sounds like a good thing. But, complaining can easily turn into a lifestyle if you let it. And, we all know people who have chosen that path.

I'm not saying you can't bemoan things here and there. Sometimes you have to get it out of your system so you can move on. If you find yourself lamenting something over and over, though, it's worth considering that your time just might be better spent doing something else. One possibility? Taking steps to change the thing you don't like.

Fountain of Youth

"There is a fountain of youth: it is your mind, your talents, the creativity you bring to your life and the lives of people you love."

Sophia Loren

I haven't been tapping into my fountain of youth lately. The soggy and gray Seattle days have gotten the best of me this winter and, as a result, I've spent more time managing the mundane than I have truly living life.

I haven't listened to enough music, I haven't written many paragraphs, I haven't laughed nearly as much as I'd prefer. In fact, another winter has gone by without much creative pursuit at all. And this is despite my complete understanding that those are the same things that make me feel the most alive.

We do the laundry, we sweep the kitchen floor, we do our best to keep up with the endless emails. But, what about us?

This week, schedule time to do something that taps into your fountain of youth, that makes your heart sing. This week, promise me that you'll find time to be creative, to be alive. I think I'll do the same. 




"You never really understand a person until you consider things from his point of view..."

Harper Lee in To Kill A Mockingbird

We each have our own lifetime of experiences that shape the way we see the world. It's easy to make assumptions and equally easy to make judgements. Unless someone is advocating hate or hurting someone, though, it might be best to live and let live.

It's not always easy, of course, especially when you vehemently disagree with something. But Harper Lee was a wise woman. We must at least try to be open to the views of others if for no other reason than to better understand ourselves.


Stick with love

"I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear."

Martin Luther King, Jr.

Ahhh, Valentine's Day. Whether you have a romantic partner or not, let today be about love. Love for yourself. Love for your friends. Love for your family. You could even try out a bit of love for those who disagree with your politics, those who drive like crap, and any others for whom you feel disdain on a regular basis. At least for today, stick with love.



"When we get too caught up in the busyness of the world, we lose connection with one another - and ourselves." Jack Kornfield  

Everyone around me is busy. Busy, busy, busy. In addition to our obligations, the world throws lots of choices our way. We could, in fact, be busy every minute of every day for the rest of our lives. And, guess what? We'd still have a long to-do list.

So, here is my challenge to you: take a few minutes today to just be. You may have to pretty much force yourself to do it (think about the absurdity of THAT for a minute) but it's so important because it's in that quiet space that we are able to reconnect with ourselves and with what's most important to us.

I double dog dare you to try it. And, I guarantee it will be time well spent.